“It’s Friday night, time to be a hero and rescue some wine trapped in a bottle .” A quote I have no one to attribute it to, but one that definitely describes how most people feel about Friday .
There’s also “Thank God It’s Friday (TGIF) ” which is also an exclamatory phrase that is used by people who are happy their weekend has started and they can possible go out for an evening of drinks . Rihanna singing “drink to the freaken weekend” also doesn’t help ease the pressure of going out on a Friday night.
But to ride on a quote I can actually attribute to someone; “I understand what’s it like to work all week and on Friday night, just want to go and leave your brain at the door, buy some popcorn and be thrilled by something.”Don Cheadle
I definitely understand this . More especially when you’ve had a week from hell, and you just want to free yourself from the inconvenience of adulting (is that an Oxford dictionary word now ? Not yet? Ok) which has left you worn out. Most of us live just for Fridays . We go through life on other days like breathing zombies and are only awake on Fridays .
There’s something about the week ending and weekend beginning that promises new life, and new life is always something worth celebrating. So I am safely guessing that when on a Friday, we let our hair down, and loosen the belts, we are actually celebrating the beginning of a new life.
Everyday should in fact be a new life but drinking everyday is not practical and will definitely destroy your liver more than it would give you new life .
But I find that we get too accustomed to the life of going out on a Friday (more especially in Jozi) that when we don’t we are engulfed by unmeasurable FOMO, the Fear Of Missing Out. Is FOMO an Oxford dictionary word yet ? Anyways , I digress .
For some not going out on a Friday has the power to ruin the rest of the coming week. It’s the same feeling church goers feel when they miss a church service. It disturbs the normalcy of your routine and make it hard for you adjust .
But don’t you think since we have the power over our lives we should be able to easily change routines and adopt a new lifestyle?
There’s nothing wrong with not going out on a Friday night.
In fact there’s everything right with not going out on a Friday night. You get to avoid driving whilst under the influence of alcohol, being exposed to fights at clubs, being hijacked , being kidnapped. I mean I know I could be exaggerating a little bit here because chances are these atrocities can happen even on a Monday. But the point is that when you are in-doors in the comfort of your space with your loved ones even if that includes the TV and a good book, you are safe .
You are safe from women who think it’s ok to borrow lipstick at club bathrooms. You are safe from strangers who think by virtue of their penis, they are entitled to speaking you . You are safe from a drunk person spilling their smelly alcohol on your weave and blaming it on you being on their way . You are safe from being expected to dance . Yes some of us just can’t dance . And no it’s not only white people who have bad rhythm.
But when you are home, you have basically made an executive decision to not be bothered by things that shouldn’t bother you to start with. And what with people in clubs assuming it’s possible to have a normal conversation? What must happen really? Should we be screaming at each other, competing with the music just because you don’t understand that it’s a club and we drink and dance at clubs and not have unnecessary conversations?
But there’s good to going out on a Friday night. And all this depends on the place and its ambience . Sometimes going to a relaxed place to eat and drink while sitting down and having a proper conversation is ideal . Sometimes the movies are the most ideal . Clubbing is only ideal if you have the energy . Some people can party throughout the night, but if you are not some people , then try find your lane and stick to it .
I partied a lot in university. In fact me and my friends thought of nothing but organize parties . So lately I find that clubs have dismally failed to give me a new experience. Everything has been experienced. There’s nothing new. And every time when I go clubbing , I always want to ask myself “what’s in it for me ? ” because I’ve seen it all .
Now I can only aspire to party in different cities but I am over Gauteng, Durban and Cape Town. I guess that’s why some people end up taking illegal drugs because they get to the point where they have experienced it all and so they yearn for something new.
To avoid that , you need to know that it’s ok to not go out on a Friday night .
I know TV can be very boring. In fact lately CNN has become more entertaining than any channel, all thanks to Trump. But you can always find nice shows to watch on a Friday. And you can definitely always find a good book to read on a Friday night. Curl up in your sofa, have that glass of wine if you must, it’ll go a long way, and just read.
I have learned that the more time I make for reading, the more I read. So make Friday nights, reading nights. Not unless Rihanna or Migos are in the country. You definitely can’t sleep . You have to be strategic. Some parties are worth your time some are not. You shouldn’t be that person who is at every party. Be scarce and you will be missed .
Today I was supposed to go out. In fact I did but had to leave early . And I am glad I did because it gave me time to watch Being Bonang, then The Life Of Kylie and now I am watching highlights and updates on the much anticipated boxing match between Mayweather and McGregor. I am not a boxing person because I don’t get what can possibly be entertaining about two grown men punching each other . In fact if anything, it’s disgusting to watch, the sweat , saliva and blood flying all over, yankkksss. But I will watch this one so I can have something to say too on Twitter. Don’t judge .
But you can make Friday a me-time day where you just spend time with yourself and meditate.
So it’s ok to not go out on a Friday night.